This post is long overdue. I realize that my last post about our family growing was of our second loss. But a lot has happened since then!
It is with great joy and happiness that I officially share the birth of Baby Maya Monson. She was born July 9th, 2017 in Johannesburg, SA. She came very quickly. Less than a hour and a half of labor, and three contractions at the birth center before she arrived at 2 am. Here we are leaving the birth center the next morning.
It was amazing to see how the Lord provided because the drive to the birth center could have taken up to a hour or more in traffic, but because my labor started at 1 am, we were able to speed through the deserted night streets, only yielding at lights, and get there in about 15 min. With only minutes to spare. God is so faithful!
I want to go back a little though. Back to before I was pregnant and share a bit.
Matthew and I were not on the same page after our second miscarriage. I was still desiring another child and he wasn’t. Through counsel, we decided to take a break from trying for a while and get on the same page. We took 6 months to pray about this topic while on furlough and align our hearts. I was praying God would change Matthew’s heart, but in fact He did the opposite. He changed mine. I felt peace and contentment with my two, and was challenged on my idea of what a family should look like. I could be ok with being done.
And guess what happened…yup, as they say here in Africa, we fell pregnant. Despite our efforts, God had a different plan, and His will will always prevail, despite man’s efforts. Maya is really a miracle baby in many ways who we waited for, for 3 years!And he said,
“Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” Job 1:21
The pregnancy was a struggle for me. I had always loved being pregnant, but not this time. I think that being pregnant with two other kids too, is just exhausting. The anxiety of potentially loosing her was one I had to continue to give over to God. especially around 11 weeks. I really struggled. I really didn’t enjoy being pregnant. And I really didn’t like when people told me things were going to be fine, because no one really knew. I saw there was wisdom in me being cautiously hopeful. Knowing the reality of what could happen, but not letting fear grip me. Sigh. The walk of faith can be so hard.
Because we were delivering internationally there was SO MUCH paperwork, and many hoops we had to jump through. Medical visas, background checks etc. and the thing here in Africa is that the rules are constantly changing. What worked for one family will not be the same for you, and it will change for the next family coming after you. A document we waited for for 3 months, didn’t even end up being needed for example. The time crunch at the end was stressful, especially because they took our passports for some time, and we needed to use them to travel for Dr.’s appointments. God provided in the end by granting our visa stamp with 2 hours till closing before a three day weekend, when we were hoping to travel that weekend! He is good.
We “moved” up to Joberg at 37 weeks and met our midwife and waited. Maya came 10 days early. We stayed on the property of a friend of a friend, in their guest house for a super discounted rate. What a huge blessing and good friends this family has become!
We applied on day 3 for Maya’s birth cert which required me and Matthew and baby to wait at a gov. office for 6 hours. Ouch! But we were able to get her passport and Birth cert. in Joberg in just about 5 weeks. These document were required for her to cross back over the boarder with us all into Lesotho. The whole trip took 5 weeks, and could have taken up to 2 months. Our team was very short staffed and they needed us back.
Trusting our Father in all things. Daily giving Him my fears, desires and thoughts. Relying on Him in all things. Our faith is a battle, but we know who the victory will go to! He will restore the years that the swarming locusts have eaten. Joel 2:25
Maya is such a delight. She is sweet and patient and thoughtful. Our family feels complete now and despite the hard exhausting days we wouldn’t change it for a second!
And so I ask, what season are you in? One of hoping? One of waiting? One of mourning and grieving? One of rejoicing? Where ever you are I pray you will be encouraged that He is there on this path with you. He is waiting to take you by the hand and to walk with you. He knows the pain of loosing a child, feeling pain hurt and rejection. He is a good good Father who loves you, His sons and daughters very much. I pray where ever you are that you will turn to Him and seek Him and know that He will never leave you nor forsake you. Let us cling to Him as we run this race together. God bless.
“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”